Wednesday, March 26, 2014

What do we really mean when we talk about soulmates?




One of the most popular misconceptions about the word soulmate is that there is only one right and perfect match for us in the world. But this is too limiting a notion.

This idea causes many people to go around feeling inadequate, feeling like they have failed. Maybe you felt that you had a special relationship years ago and you let it slip away. Or maybe you feel like you had one special relationship and now you are ready for another one. Doesn't it make sense that there is more than one person who is our soulmate? Of course. With all the people in the world, it is only reasonable to assume that there is more than one person who might make an excellent match for us. Out of all the billions of people on this planet, there are, no doubt, a number of people who could be our soulmates, but practically speaking, we will probably never get around to meeting them all. So at some point, of all the people we have met, we simply choose one and see what kind of relationship we can create with that person.

The notion of a soulmate is a very romantic one. We often have an image in mind of meeting someone and being totally enamored of them right away, and deciding right then and there that we want to spend the rest of our life with that person. But haven't we all had an experience of meeting someone who we felt was beautiful, sweet and extremely attractive only to change our opinion of how great a match we were once we got to know the person more? Of course. That is a common experience, which tells us that some of the other things we get to know about a person, such as their dreams, desires, goals, habits, characteristics and qualities are even more important in finding a great match than looks. Looks are important, but they are only one component.

It is possible that a person that we met, married and divorced was a soulmate, and we learned all the lessons we were meant to learn or able to learn from them. Then we might experience another opportunity to spend time with another soulmate to learn other lessons. So, yes, we might have more than one soulmate experience in one lifetime. After completing karmic lessons with one person, we may be ready for a whole new adventure. How many people start over again due to divorce, death, or the prospect of many more years ahead after the kids have grown and gone on to live their own lives?

Soulmate can mean we have a significant connection with a person, but it does not necessarily mean that it will last forever.

One view of reincarnation is that we come back in groups, so that people we know in this lifetime, we have known in other lifetimes, except perhaps from a different perspective, a different relationship. Consider the fact that there are people among our family, friends, business associates or neighbors who we have shared past lives with and may be connected to again, in order to learn valuable lessons.

Do not allow yourself to feel defeated because you had a relationship that was great for a while, then failed. That may simply be a near miss on the way to a better relationship. A near miss is when spirit places another person in our path who might appear to be an excellent partner for us, but upon spending more time with that person, it turns out that we are not really that well matched, because some key component was missing. So we regroup, reflect and reconsider, and adjust our vision of who would be a great partner for us and include that missing factor into the equation, and hold the vision that we want that to be present in our next relationship.

Choose a more unlimited view of the term soulmates and it opens up more possibilities in our life. Plus, it is a more encouraging perspective that enables us to be resilient.

Remember that we always have free will, and we choose who we will have in our lives. Spirit will place certain people in our path, but ultimately we choose whether or not we want to form a closer bond with them or not. Isn't it uplifting to be able to choose?


If you are not currently in a relationship and you have a desire to be in a relationship or find a soulmate, the best thing you can do is to simply live your life the way you think best and keep your eyes and ears open. When you are doing the things that you like to do and going places you want to go, you are most likely to meet others with whom you have common ground.

The Law of Attraction really works. If you think positively about your self and your desires, you can attract that result into your life. If you are determined to find a soulmate or at least create a good relationship in your life, you can do it. Pay attention to your thoughts every day, because where your thoughts flow, action goes.

Finding soulmates is not just for the young. It is also for people who are older. People of any age can find a soulmate. Life is good. Enjoy it. As long as you are alive, there are still opportunities. Go for it!