Saturday, November 2, 2024

After the costumes come off

 

After the costumes come off

Dressing in costume is a way of being a different person for a while. We can have fun pretending that we are someone else and we can talk different and act different for a while, and when our costumes and masks are well done, no one knows it is us, we can be outrageous and wild and totally different than our normal way of being. Does some of that stay with us for a while? Do we sometimes like the person in the costume better than our usual self?


Do we not sometimes desire a major change in our life so that we are very different from our present self?


This may sound a bit far fetched, but stop and think for a moment.


Once upon a time, I worked in jobs that required wearing a suit and tie every day, no beard, short haircuts and driving in rush hours to get to office buildings downtown every day. You would never know that by looking at me now.


Have you seen anyone at a party who looked absolutely fabulous dressed up, where their every day manner of dress and looks are plain and low key?


How did you used to look before I met you? How we look influences how people see us. And now, more than ever, we are free to look however we want. There was a time when certain looks went with certain positions. That has largely changed. For example, it was not that long ago that if you had visible tattoos, a lot of companies would not hire you.


Who is the person underneath all the designs, body art and clothing styles? That is the part that really needs to shine through. Does a person's look reveal that? Is the person able to do what needs to be done? Does the way a person looks fit their personality? People are enjoying looking more colorful and why not? If colored hair and body art lifts your spirits, go for it. Employers these days are letting go of those old dress codes as long as you can show up and do the work.


Even in medical professions, where we will continue to see those professionals wearing scrubs, how differently do we perceive that person when we see them in their scrubs than when we see them in their street clothes? On the occasions when I encounter someone from my doctor's or dentist's office in another place, I have to do a double take to recognize them, but they don't have the same hesitation recognizing me.


How differently do we see ourselves when we are wearing jeans and T shirts and when we are dressed up? Who is the person under those clothes? What kind of energy are we projecting when we dress different ways? How do we want people to perceive us?


We put a lot of thought into our costumes. What else do we put a lot of thought into? Do these concepts drive thoughts of change?



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Have a wonderful Halloween, Diwali and Samhain this weekend!